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25 November 2024

You're not alone: Coping with loss during the festive season

Coping with loss at Christmas, this blog offers support, advice, and connections to help navigate grief during the festive season.
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Remembering someone at Christmas

For many, Christmas is a time of joy and togetherness, but for those who are grieving, it can be a profoundly difficult season. The image of families gathered around the table, exchanging laughter and stories, can bring a sharp sense of what is missing—an empty chair, a quiet absence that echoes through the festivities.

At St Michael’s Hospice, we understand that the holiday season can heighten the pain of loss. Memories of loved ones often come flooding back at Christmas, a time when traditions and togetherness feel incomplete without those we’ve lost. If you are navigating grief during this time, know that you are not alone.

Coping with grief at Christmas

Here are some ways to support yourself through the season:

  1. Acknowledge your feelings
    It’s okay to feel sadness, anger, or even numbness. Grief is not something to suppress or ignore—it’s a reflection of love. Allow yourself to feel what you feel without judgment.
  2. Set realistic expectations
    You don’t have to celebrate in the same way as before. If certain traditions feel too painful, consider creating new ones or scaling back your plans.
  3. Create a tribute
    Honour the memory of your loved one by lighting a candle, playing their favourite music, or even setting a place for them at the table. These gestures can be comforting and affirming.
  4. Reach out for support
    Share your feelings with trusted friends or family members. You don’t have to carry the weight of your grief alone. If talking feels difficult, writing a letter or journaling can also help express your emotions.
  5. Connect with others who understand
    Sometimes, speaking with people who have experienced a similar loss can be incredibly comforting. At St Michael’s Hospice, we offer free community bereavement support groups where you can meet others with shared experiences. You can find more information and join a group here: Community Bereavement Support.
  6. Seek professional help
    There is no shame in asking for help. Bereavement counsellors and support groups can offer understanding and guidance when things feel overwhelming.

St Michael’s Bereavement Groups

Talking Groups Singing Groups Walking Groups

Free UK helplines for bereavement support

These services provide a listening ear and expert advice to help you navigate this challenging time.

A season of gratitude

Here at St Michael’s Hospice, Christmas also brings a heartwarming reminder of the compassion and kindness in our community. We are deeply touched by the wonderful cards and messages we receive during this season. Each card tells a story of gratitude—thank-yous for the care provided, memories of loved ones, and words of encouragement for our staff and volunteers.

Every single card is read, and the messages are shared with the doctors, nurses, support staff, and volunteers who dedicate themselves to the comfort and dignity of our patients. These thoughtful gestures mean the world to us, reinforcing the reason we do what we do.

You are not alone

As we reflect on the season, we hold in our hearts all those who are grieving and those who are missing someone special.
Know that at St Michael’s Hospice, we are here to support you—not just at Christmas, but throughout the year.

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